You Have it?
of us have been taught not to express angry feelings. In our childhood, expressing anger may have been too dangerous; perhaps it was not tolerated, or it was ignored, dismissed – even ridiculed.
Therefore, even as adults, we may have difficulty expressing anger,
even when the appropriate expression of displeasure or anger is acceptable
in current relationships.
After years of stuffing or stiffling our anger, we may not even acknowledge
to ourselves that we are angry.
being unaware of anger does not mean that you aren't angry.
The anger you are unaware of can do the most damage to your health,
sense of well-being, and relationships with others. If your anger is
not expressed directly, it will probably be expressed in indirect or
Checklist for Hidden Anger:
Do you have any of the following symptoms?:
jaws especially while sleeping
teeth especially while sleeping
habitual foot tapping, facial tics
stiff or sore neck or shoulder muscles
in your stomach; stomach ulcers
more easily than usual
getting to sleep or sleeping through the night
up tired, rather than refreshed
in regard to imposed tasks
cynicism, or flippancy in conversation
constant cheerfulness, "stiff upper lip"
or monotone voice
apathy, loss of interest
irritability or intense anger over small things
at inappropriate moments; sleeping much more than normal
depression; feeling down for no particular reason
self-destructive behavior, significant weight gain, compulsive or binge-eating
have checked one or more of the above danger signals, you may have bottled
up anger. Therapy with an experienced, trained professional can help
you acquire new permissions to acknowledge, accept, express or discharge
your anger in life-enhancing ways.